It may have been overreacting. I like to think it was a wise decision. Let's face it, Facebook is a time-waster. And for me, it is not how I care to nurture friendships. In fact, I think it creates a false sense of friendship.
One of the things that really bugged me was all of the people who I used to be somewhat friends with, 20 years ago in high school, connecting with me on FB. We'd have one exchange about "what have you been doing since high school?" and then no more contact except for the occasional comment on someone's photo or status. It is really so empty. To me, hurtful. It's hard to not be friends with people when you attend such as small high school as I did. But after 20 years, we have nothing in common and we have totally separate lives. We've all moved on since then, and that's the way it should be.
The whole situation leads me to question, "who are my friends?" Who are my real friends? Who can I trust, confide in? What really matters in life? The stuff from 20 years ago does not matter. In a sense, it formed who I am today. But it is the past and it is insignificant compared to the now. The people who I see on a daily basis are the ones who really matter. The friends who shoot an email or call even a few times a year, I am always glad to hear from, meet for coffee, chat and laugh and catch up. We're investing time in each other. Facebook is fracturing friendships, not fostering them.
How many mornings have I logged on, eager to see what was going on in someone's life... only to find goofy things about imaginary farms, horoscopes, gardens, and quizzes? Facebook is a game. I think most people in the world need to find more valuable things to do with their time. I, for one, am moving on to bigger and better things.
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